So, last week 20/20 had a special on happyness. Since every one I know seems to be in that pursuit (even the fine hottie Will Smith), I, who usually does not watch 20/20, was glued to the t.v. I come from a peculiar place where both sides of my fam struggle with depression. Do I have it, well doesn't everyone, well no, so maybe I do. Is there a cure??? Well, pharmaceutical companies claim they can make you feel better, but do they just make you numb to depressing feelings instead of coping? That seems to help those who are coping and a miracle drug in my book. Either way, anti-depressants can save lives and that is the bottom point Mr. loudmouth Tom Cruise, who should swim in his money bags and leave the innocent alone. He has no flipin clue.
Any who, Cruise is a whole nother topic and not worth my time.

What I found most interesting about this show was that people's happiness is 50% on genetics and the way we were raised to feel, 10% on looks and money and/or other things that fit, and 40% on how you want to look at your own happiness. So that means that someone like me, who has depressed genes, self-conscious, and not money rich can still have a 40% chance of being happy. Well gosh darn it, I am on that bus. But how, you ask, well the fundamentals that all Mormons already know (and for those of you who aren't Mormon you may know as well, but since I am, I don't know if you know, ya know).
Charity
Faith and Prayer
Love
Friendship
Gratitude
Another oh so interesting thing they pointed out. Countries where the population is happy vs. not. I am thinking warm sand, turquoise water, my buff husby serving my a virgin banana pina colada. Well, no. Although count me in.
On a scale of Happy #1 to unhappy # how ever many countries there are, Fiji Numero 57 on a happiness scale, The U.S. of A. where we are supposed to be free and brave #23, Italy where they eat, drink, and be merry, and call everyone their cousin uhhh number 50, but the number one happiest place on earth (no not Disneyland either) Denmark.
Ok, so Bill and I are travel channel junkies, and have yet to see or know anything about Denmark. But there, the garbage man is a middle class person, the prince is a carpenter, and they have the highest taxes in the world. But when the mothers go shopping with their children, they leave them in strollers out in front of the store (gasp!) unsupervised (double gasp!), supposedly this is a not so high in crime place and babies are safe by themselves. And people are happy not feeling the need to keep up with the Jones'. For those of you who are po like me and see yourself telling yourself not to envy other's beautiful possessions and homes (try a slice of humble pie), this doesn't sound so bad ehh! I'm down. Although the place is cold, and after the wind chill of the negatories we are having here in Chi-town,
maybe I will settle for being unhappy in that warm sand and crystal water, with my lover boy husby. After all, happiness is in the eyes of the beholder (maybe it's beauty?, whatever)
(the danish do make good pastries!)
Hope this makes you smile as much as I did when I googled it!


Have a happy day. And pray for my husband too! Thanx!